When we are young our parents are our heroes, we look up to them almost in a holy way.
We obey and admire their every demand.
But when we are older and our egos start to form
Independent thoughts and our individual personality emerge
The clash starts between child and parent
We start discussing and fighting
Or we try to avoid the gap between us for good and just nod, and move along.
All those actions “under the umbrella of INDEPENDENCE” are in fact REACTIONS, not RESPONSES.
They are REACTIONS because we are still trying to convince them,
which means deep down we are not truly independent
We sill immaturely idolize them
and the PROOF is highlighted because we are still seeking approval
Most of our rebellion is not from lack of love, it’s from the wrong type of love.
You outgrew the old type of love, the idolization, but still, practice it which causes the clash.
RESPONDING is when you respect. acknowledge, love but without seeking agreement or approval.
Doesn’t matter which one we are now, the child or the parent
because the gap hurts both sides.
The difference is so minor (Responding vs. Reacting)
a small seed of belief inside of us that is controlling us,
we don’t feel it, it needs the keen awareness
but when you think about it, clarity comes through
and you will know if your actions are
RESPONSES OR REACTIONS